There was no way we could discuss the best dating apps without mentioning the granddaddy of them all. Match was at the top of the dating game long before apps existed, and its experience shows. You don’t have to log into the app via Facebook — though you will have to go through a signup process that requires you to add a few photos, answer some questions about your gender and preferences, and create a username and password.
A long-running site but “new” app, this one is a classic. In order to sign up for okcupid, you have to fill out a quiz to say something about yourself. It takes a little bit, but it’s worth it. Everything here revolves around tests and questionnaires to fit you with the right person. You can even take personality tests to put as much information about yourself out there as possible. They make them fun to take and it never feels like work when you’re doing it.
Depending on how much money you're willing to spend, Tinder has several useful options to maximize your chance of getting matches. The Boost function can help for accumulating matches as it pushes you to the front of the match line for people in your area for half an hour. After the Boost session is over, you will see stats on how much more exposure your profile got (4x, 8x, etc), to ensure you got your money's worth. Of course, you have to pay for the privilege, and free users cannot dictate where in the queue their profiles appear.
Never heard of Flirtbuddies? This one is a casual dating app that puts you in touch with other like-minded people. There is a free version and paid version for you to choose from. There’s a give and take with this one in the form of the amount of information you put on your profile. It doesn’t require them to be completely filled out. This is great if you just want to get on and see what’s going on, but there are obvious drawbacks as well.
Now hold on there a minute. “Short-term mating strategies” seem to work for plenty of women too; some don’t want to be in committed relationships, either, particularly those in their 20s who are focusing on their education and launching careers. Alex the Wall Streeter is overly optimistic when he assumes that every woman he sleeps with would “turn the tables” and date him seriously if she could. And yet, his assumption may be a sign of the more “sinister” thing he references, the big fish swimming underneath the ice: “For young women the problem in navigating sexuality and relationships is still gender inequality,” says Elizabeth Armstrong, a professor of sociology at the University of Michigan who specializes in sexuality and gender. “Young women complain that young men still have the power to decide when something is going to be serious and when something is not—they can go, ‘She’s girlfriend material, she’s hookup material.’ … There is still a pervasive double standard. We need to puzzle out why women have made more strides in the public arena than in the private arena.”
The bottom line: If you're a gay man, an app that's specifically for you is your place to shine. There are obviously gay men on Tinder, Match, and many other dating apps, but that's probably their backup app, and you're likely to circle through the same batch. No one wastes time on here, and if you're in the mood and looking for someone ASAP, Grindr won't steer you wrong. Just don't expect to meet your date's parents any time soon.
A: Happy Valentine’s Day! Welcome to the delightful (and sometimes horrifying) world of dating apps. Flirting from your phone can be fun, as well as alluringly convenient—make a match on your morning commute!—but it’s also work. It takes time and effort to sort through the crowd to find someone you want to get a drink with, and you’re certain to face disappointments along the way. The process also inherently requires sharing personal information with strangers, who may screenshot your photos or try to find you on other sites like LinkedIn and Facebook without your consent. Here’s what you should know before you start swiping.