Apps like Tinder and Bumble are technically for all sexual orientations — so why are they still giving you male matches when you've specified you only want women? Swiping through all of that is way too much work, and it shouldn't have to be like that. LESBIANS EXIST. Claiming to the be the app that "introduces you to every lesbian you've ever wanted to meet," HER is the award-winning mix of dating and social media that lets you meet girls you know are girls, as it requires a Facebook for signup and is solely for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women. It was also created by queer women, for queer women, which is glorious.
Rather than being thrown into an endless pool of profiles, EliteSingles lets you pick out exactly what you're looking for. You'll be given a limited number of matches curated for you using 29 extremely detailed, professional-level algorithms based on the popular Five Factor Personality Test. They'll even show you your own results in comparison to those of potential matches to see how you stack up. Like eharmony, the stuff to fill out is pretty lengthy, which can be a bit annoying if all you're looking for is a hookup. But sometimes hookups can turn into relationships — hey, it happens! — so at least it'll be nice to know that you're shacking up with someone who shares your interests.
Match calls themselves "number one in dates, relationships and marriages," and they have the data to back this one up. It's pricey, but if you don't find The One in six months, they'll give you another six months gratis. Not a money-back guarantee, exactly, but an incentive to roll up your sleeves and join if marriage or an LTR is what you're after.
Why? I am on Bumble and Hinge. Bumble has been my go-to for quite some time mainly because the quality of men I find on Bumble seem (key word: seem) to be more along the lines of what I am looking for and now with the options that Bumble provides i.e. height, religion, reasons for being on the app, etc. No success yet, but I know friends that have had success so ... I'm still keeping the faith.
Here's how it works: Your nosey friend will sign you up for the app and then starts promoting you like they're a damn salesman. When they find someone they deem fit, they'll swipe right. If the potential match's wingman agrees, you and your blind date will be automatically connected, and the helpful friends are booted from the conversation. There's even a leader board for multiple friends to compete to see who has the best matchmaking skills, so it really is fun for the whole group. It has an insanely good rating on the App Store, which is rare for a dating app.
Pure is the free hookup app for awesome people. It is a hookup app for exciting people who are searching for adventures, not relationships. The app is easy to use, quick, direct and discreet. With Pure your private life stays private because there are no social media links and no email addresses. Create a profile, upload a selfie and begin searching for matches for free. Once you find a match, the free chat lets you get to know them a little better before meeting for your adventure.
To get started with Tinder app, you just have to install it from your respective app store and then proceed by authenticating it with your Facebook account. (Note: It promises to not post anything on your behalf).Tinder works on your device’s GPS, which helps it to find the singles nearby you’re neighborhood who are thinking or planning to get hooked up.
The site has profile verification options to ensure you are matching with real people and not fake profiles. On top of that, the site has a Smart Match system that essentially allows it to learn your preferences the more you use it, and the option to send a “Mega Flirt” that reaches dozens of inboxes every 15 minutes. It's a site you won't easily grow bored of that aims to help you become a better dater.
That sort of massive following is a selling point in itself, but Plenty Of Fish has more going for it than just pure size. It’s something of a “lite” version of other dating apps, and includes Tinder’s swiping mechanics, and a Happn-style ability to see matches near to you. It does have its own little twists on the formula — POF’s “Spark” system allows users to quote any part of their amour’s profile, making icebreakers that much easier.
Don’t partake in kittenfishing – the lite version of catfishing – by uploading misleadingly flattering photos, and make sure your images are recent enough to show what you look like now. Remember, there’s no point in being dishonest. It’s all going to come out in the wash when you meet a match IRL, so be upfront from the start. If you're really having trouble selecting photos, you could consider linking your profile to your Instagram account.
What Sucks: It is only available for free on iOS devices and not on Android. You will only get a few matches per day and if you don’t find any one of them to your liking, you will have to wait till the next day for new matches. If the app’s daily selection is not as per your preference, then you don’t really have an option to do anything else to find matches. You can’t also set distance or location to get matches close by as you need to pay to activate that feature.
Don't dump your frustrations onto your poor, unsuspecting Tinder match! Instead, spend a minute or two crafting something friendly and subtly flirty (or check out these Tinder conversation starters for ideas), and finish with a question to keep the banter flowing. Being kind and showing enough genuine interest to keep the conversation rolling is a winning strategy and should help to convert your matches into IRL dates.
Met someone you like? Congratulations! Now delete your accounts—not just the dating apps themselves. Removing a dating app from your phone won’t necessarily erase your profile. Make sure you carefully follow the steps provided to properly nuke your accounts after you fall in love. Not sure if you’ve found the one, but want to take a break? Some dating services let you temporarily hide your profile and remove it from the pool of eligible singles.